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  Use The 'Boyfriending Technique' To Get Paid Fast
Dating AdviceBy John Alexander
Author, "How to Become an Alpha Male"

I'm going to reveal an important comfort-building technique I call "Boyfriending." In a nutshell, there's something you can do that's usually done ONLY by a woman's boyfriend.

If you do it too, it's a way of getting under a woman's radar and making her comfortable enough around you so that she'll be receptive to sex without making you wait.

You see, in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man, she must have feelings of comfort. It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy.

Let's say you meet a girl at a 5 PM happy hour. The two of you hit it off, having a great conversation. She's laughing. She's interested. You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories about your life. The two of you have good rapport.

Around 7:30, you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat. Dinner goes well too. Then dinner ends. Now what?

Around this time, a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward. Clearly the goal is to get paid, but the roadmap is often muddled.

Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like, "I had great time meeting you. Call me. Bye!"

Often, the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex.

(If the guy's lucky, it might be only three dates, but with a lot of women, the guy can be made to wait for months.)

Fortunately, there's a way to shortcircuit that barrier. I call it the "Boyfriending Technique."

If you watch couples who are in close relationships, you'll notice an interesting phenomenon. The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other, so much so that they'll even do seemingly gross things like brush sleep ("eye boogers") out of each other's eyes.

It's a behavior that's only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other. Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman's eye, you've long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex.

Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more comfortable around you.

In mid-conversation, tell her to hold still and close her eyes. Pretend there's sleep in her eye, and make her believe that you just brushed it off.

Later, after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant, again tell her to hold still. With your finger, brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip.

The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear. First, it sub-communicates that the two of you are very comfortable around each other.

Second, it involves you touching her face, bringing your heads closer together and progressing towards a make out session.

Third, in the case of you touching her lower lip, you're in fact touching an erogenous zone. That's right... a woman's lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings. Stimulating her lower lip makes her body release sex hormones.

Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal, and you'll find more success than ever before. You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait several months.

John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male" ... a seduction success guide for men. Learn the 7 Step Seduction System that takes you from saying "hello" to a new woman... to sharing orgasms in bed with her... in just one evening!
Posted by gfs on Friday, 30 September 2005 (11:02:01) UTC (11034 reads)
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  i love you?
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: I like a girl at my school. She used to like me but then she didn't because i swear sometimes. I stopped swearing and i like her now.

Oh, isn't she a delicate flower. I think you'll have to charm her with sweetness.
Posted by gfs on Friday, 01 April 2005 (10:59:33) UTC (4949 reads)
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  I hate "Hippo"
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: There is a girl that I really like and her name is "Jenny." The problem is that she is relly naive. This guy nicknamed "Hippo" was going out with this girl but then he found out that she might go out with someone else. He got mad and told her that he likes her and he was going to break up with his girlfriend so he can ask her out. The problem is that she actually believed him. How can I make her see that he is a big jerk and that she should be with me? I mean this guy is cocky and thinks he is the best. He makes out with 5 girls and then tells jenny that he likes her.

Girls of a certain age are both naive and dumb. They like this kind of cocky jerk and like the fact that he makes out with 5 girls. Anyhow, they just want to be loved. So you have to do 2 things: you have to seem like you're a catch and two, you have to let her know you like her. Don't tell her right out... girls pick up on subtle things.
Posted by gfs on Friday, 01 April 2005 (10:54:09) UTC (4460 reads)
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  THis Girl i like
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: Ok,there is this daughter of my dad's friend. I see her maybe every weekend and I never realy liked girls until I met her, Ive done alot of things with her like gone bowling and to a theme park. And i dont feel she likes me, im kinda shy but not really and she says hi to me all the time. I just dont feel she likes me and i think she likes this other guy. So how do you think i could get her to like me and focus on me not some other guy.

GFS: Ah, Dad's friend again... wheeee.... Well, to get her attention you have to act mature. Well known fact that girls mature faster than guys (even though it's not completely obvious looking at some of the ditzy teenyboppers) Don't show off though... girls see through that and you'll look dumb. Impress her in a romantic way by doing little things for her. Give her a compliment and make her feel special. Don't tell her you love her. I wish I knew how old you were so I could give more suggestions...
Posted by gfs on Tuesday, 26 October 2004 (18:55:15) UTC (12769 reads)
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  What to do When the gf is cheating
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: Sup i am just recently finding out that my girl has cheated on me with one of my good friends. This is really a complicated issue for me because for once i really like the girl and wouldnt mind her being with me for a long time. It apparently happend one night when she had people over drinking at her house and me and a couple of friends were over at her house. I ended up leaving when the party began winding down but a few of her girlfriends where spending the night over at her house. Before I left i said goodnight to my girl and asked my friends mike and Bristen if they were going to leave also. Mike, lives a few houses from my girlfriend so he said he was gonne stay there for a little longer and walk back to his house becuase he was too drunk to drive so i thought nothing of it and left because i had to work early in the morning. The next day she had people over again and my girl was acting really strange towards me. It wasnt untill three days later that Kathleen ( my girl ) called me at work and told me she had something she had to tell me in person. When i got to her house after work she told me that she didnt want to hurt me after I asked her what the problem was. She told me that she made out with mike who had been a close friend for four years or so. I was mad of course but i felt as if she wasnt telling me everything because she said she forgot how it happend and how long there little make out session lasted. I immeadiatly went to speak with mike himself about the issue. All he could say im sorry i was really drunk. I tried my hardest to not be mad and it worked untill my other friend jake told me i didnt know the whole story. On my way back from the casino the next day, Jake told mike to tell me what really happend with my gf. I found out that she just didnt kiss him but somehow went into her room and got buck ass naked and she gave him oral pleasure. The whole fact almost makes me sick. I was so furious becuase she told me straight to my face that she didnt do anytihing but kiss and it was a big mistake. She wasnt even drunk and she did it. we broke up that same night after i woke her up and bitched at her for a while. At this point I was real bummed out becasue this is the longest relationship i ahve ever been in Seven months. I tried my best to work it out still maybe because i am dumb but i really cared for her. I still wonder if i can even trust her. It used to be at least for me once a cheater always one but i changed so i hope she can also. The only problem is that she admitted to having feelings for him for the longest time and said she still does but she loves me. I was very doubtfull. Now i am just waiting to see how things play out. I dont know if this means anything or not but yesterday she said she was going to chill wtih her friend candice for a while then call me because she wanted to hang out but she ended up not answering her phone because it was on silent. That is fine with me but then later when she finally called me back at the end of the day she said she left candice and went over to mikes house for a while and chilled. This made me mad at the moment because she also said that she got back from his house and fell asleep so she couldnt answer my call. I really dont trust her alone with mike at all. Even though I had a talk with mike about his feeling for her. He said he had feelings for her and would of gone out with her If I wasnt. Every time that i bring up the cheating to kathleen she gets mad and tells me to stop bringing it up but i may still sub consioiusly have my doubts that she can stay dedicated to me. I wonder how much she actually goes over to his house when i drop her off at home because she says she is tired. I dont know what i am asking for, maybe just some advice to either start trusting her again or how to find out if she is still doing things with him or not

GFS: Wow, that sucks I would have to say that you have no reason to trust her. She seems to keep lying and there is no reason to think she'll stop soon. She probably doesn't really know what she wants so she's just messing around. My advice is to ask her to make some decision and be ready to walk away. Also be ready for the fact she might go out with Mike. I know it's shitty when someone betrays your trust but remember the good times and find a new girl.
Posted by gfs on Thursday, 21 October 2004 (16:04:53) UTC (17387 reads)
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  Her friends don't approve
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: alright, i dunno if you guys can help, stumbled upon your site through google and from what i've seen its pretty impressive Smile so i thought "hey, what'll it hurt?"

Okay... so i went out with this girl for about 3 months, started out great, we got very close there would be times we'd just spend the entire day together on the weekend not doing much of anything but being close and all that good stuff. I loved her and I still do. She would tell me that I was a great boyfriend, so on and so on.. But anyway the last month of summer before school started she went on a trip with her family, she went to hawaii and there was no real way for us to keep in contact so we didn't for about 3 weeks. when she came back it was two days after she got back from her trip that we even talked. this is when it really gets messy... so i was lead on to believe that she was uncompfortable around me because her friends didn't "approve" of me. and then (she broke up with me online) tells me that she doesn't feel the same. we get into a long discussion, she told me she was crying, i was crying -- it was aweful. okay so then i try and push her away to move on, i stop talking to her for a week... (yes i know i'm week) but she sends me this 3 page long poem. so i talk to her again and she says she's missed me and missed talking to me but still thinks it'll never work. So she proposes we work on being friends. and thats worked out a lil bit, she tells me that i'm the person she can talk the most openly with. she still messages me online and we talk sometimes at school to this day... And through friends i've heard she wants to get back with me.. but i haven't seen a hint from her. Anyway, i don't have much experience with girls, i appologise for my rather long story but what I'm getting at is Do you think i'm doomed to just be "friends" with this girl who has never been absent of my mind since the day we meet? or am should i just wait it out and see what happens?

thanks for your time , i really appreciate it

GFS: See, teenage girls are really heavily influenced by their friends. I think you should talk to her and ask her why she thinks it'll never work. Ask her why she listens to her friends more than her own heart. I think you have a chance with her but you just need to help her clarify her thoughts and figure out what she really wants. Tell her to give it a try. If it doesn't work, then it doesn't work but at least you tried and at least you had a good time together.
Posted by gfs on Thursday, 21 October 2004 (15:54:45) UTC (5228 reads)
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  My Friend
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: My friend has come up to me several times asking how to get a girl since ive had a LONG history. The thing is I have no clue what to tell him? He has an attitude that really won't work with a relationship. Please help. TY!

GFS: Well... what is wrong with his attitude? You can probably help him by giving him suggestions on how to improve his attitude. However, do it gently. Most people get very defensive when you tell them to change something in their personality. It's probably best to say it as "girls like this" and "girls like that" so it's not you that is judging him but it's just what girls are looking for.
Posted by gfs on Thursday, 21 October 2004 (15:42:23) UTC (3021 reads)
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Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: Yeh well here it goes....

Basically i think i'm the shyest guy on earth, and well there is this girl at work, and i try to talk to her, but it's basically just like...hey how you doing? and that's our conversation. I try to strike up a conversation, but i never know what to my mind i'm thinking, damnit think.... say something.....but i never do.

And i always she her at this club i goto, and i'm like tonight's the night, i'm dancing with this girl and i head towards, but when i get to her i walk right by her and chicken out like a pansy.

Anywho long story short, I have zero confidence in myself. How does one overcome that?

GFS: It's tough. Tell yourself, everyone else is in the same boat. And think, what's the worst that can happen? The worst thing is that she'll think you're shy (which she probably already knows.)

Just relax and if it doesn't work out, well, you'll do better next time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself about. If you're shy and uncomfortable, it makes the other person uncomfortable as well... and that will just make it worse for yourself.

So next time, go up to her and say hi. Then ask her if you can buy her a drink. Then start things off by talking about things you have in common: work, the club etc. But don't bore her with too much work stuff. Ask her about herself... that will give you a chance to relax and just listen.
Posted by gfs on Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (18:48:26) UTC (4722 reads)
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  Gettin a gril
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: Hi there
I'm a semi reserve teenager yet i have been labeled by my friends as a playa because i have know all of the hottest girls unfortunately most of these girls put me on the friend list which is not where im working towards. Im not the hottest guy kinda a friendly cool look and i was just wondering what can i say to a girl to let her know im here while not threatening our friendship you know what im saying; let them no im interested but in a calm nondesporate way.
Thanks for your help

It's a little tricky because people often decide what kind of relationship they want to have with someone within a few minutes of meeting them. Luckily, I think teenage girls are more likely to change their minds!

I think being direct and confident will help. Also, if you mention other girls to them they will see you as having other girls interested in you and therefore more desireable. It's about perception. If they think other girls are interested, they will become more interested themselves.
Posted by gfs on Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (18:39:57) UTC (8604 reads)
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  need help!!
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: There's this girl at school i like. I want to talk to her, but what do i say to her? I've never talked to her before. Please Help me!!

GFS: Well first try smiling at her and see if she smiles back. Start by just saying Hi. Then think of something to say related to where or when you see her. For example, if you see her during a break you could say something about the class you just had or ask her what class she has next. Or if you know she plays some sports or does other activities, you could ask her about that. Or you could ask her about some even going on at school. A really good place for meeting someone is in a line up or at school, before or after a test or exam. Then you can ask her how she did or whatever.
Posted by gfs on Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (18:35:38) UTC (5137 reads)
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  i need help
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: HEy, im a preteen, almost a teenager. When it coems to my school, lets say all my friends have girlfreinds. I want one, and my friend is trying to help me pick up one. I want a hot girl to acully notice me at first, then i want to overcome my shyness, and then ask her out for the movies, or something. I personaly think this is funny asking you guys for help when im only 12. But,great things about this site, so i ask for your help. ALso Here comments about me that i hope you can fix that so they notice me.

I'm :
Not as handsom as you think i can be. I'm a little over weight, but people dont always notice it.
I jell my hear, and flip it(i dont want super long hair like sufer dude}
Aveage hieight...

Thanks man, i relly hope you can help


GFS: Yeah, I remember!
Let me think. You want a hot 11 year old girl to notice you. That is not really my area of expertise...

I think you've got the order of your steps wrong. First, try to overcome your shyness. Then find a girl that you find cute and nice (not the hottest girl in school that everyone is after) and start being friendly to her. Go slow. If she's responding well (smiling, laughing etc.) when she sees you, then ask her out to the movies. Remember, she's probably shy too so you can't wait for her to "notice" you.
Posted by gfs on Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (17:50:55) UTC (8529 reads)
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  Does this like me
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: well I have had my eye on this and I really like her but I cant tell if she likes me I have noticed that when I make a move she definitely recieves it and I sometimes I find my self making physical contact and that during our school dances we have gotten pretty intimate on the dance floor the only bad thing is she just dumped her boyfreind and they dated roughly about a year so if I ask this out what do you think she will say

I would assume she likes you. Take charge. Next time you're on the dance floor, look deep into her eyes and then kiss her. Don't ask. Kiss. Talk later.
Posted by gfs on Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (17:43:40) UTC (2960 reads)
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  older woman at work
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: Hey, i've been at my job 3 months and i'm really attracted to this one woman. I'm 21 and i'm a good looking guy i'm 6'3 and played sports in college so i have the physical attributes. I'm guessing she's between 40-45 and she is attractive. She has a black belt in karate and is very into going to the gym. She doesn't wear any rings on her fingers and she is always nice to me when we do run into each other. I want to know the best way about approaching her to develop some kind of relationship and ultimately being her younger male hook-up?

Boy this is out of my area of expertise but I do know some older women and they get excited when they talk about having a younger boyfriend.

Older women are more confident about things but she may be a little insecure about her body as compared to a buff 21 year old so you might want to give her some compliments on her appearance. Other than that, I think the standard things might work. She might be a little freaked out at first but curious too. Just don't play any games...
Posted by gfs on Friday, 08 October 2004 (12:35:31) UTC (2741 reads)
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  lied very very bad
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: heres the situation I met a girl great wonderful gorgeous girl her cousin had a thing for me i brushed her cousin off after causing much strife between the two of them went after the girl and i lied to her about my age, now keep in mind i didnt think it was bad at the time however now i realize how bad it was she found out i lied when she confronted me and then i finnaly told her the truth, i spent a year trying to get back with her and i forced my self to move on I still want her but am dating/relationship with someone else to top it off, all through this her cousin and me remained very good friends, her cousin heard i had messed around with some one else after we broke up which is not true but it hurt her and she has a hard time trusting after some time i find out she was never really over me and always liked me and wanted to give it some time before we got back together so she could trust me again, now I will wait for this girl as long as it takes its one of those i love her kind of things in either event what the hell do I do know

It beats me why women get so upset about something dumb like age. But for some reason they do. It basically reflects badly on her inability to trust people which typically stems from a lack of confidence.

The thing to do is get her to trust you again. And the way to do that with women is to open up to her emotionally and tell her how you feel about things. Do NOT tell her you love her and stuff like that. Just tell her other personal feelings (things that won't FREAK HER OUT!) that you wouldn't tell anyone else. By trusting her (with something women value highly) she will begin to trust you.
Posted by gfs on Friday, 08 October 2004 (11:43:06) UTC (5043 reads)
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  How can I trust her?
Dating Advicehey how are you.
just can along your site very good!!!

Write i have this girlfriend we have been going out for 7 months its great. we ARE in love with each other and i want to spend my life with her so does she. we have our own appartment and we are off to orlando next week for a holiday.

Jenn my girlfriend who is now 20 was going out with this guy 3 years before i came along a year later after they had split up. Bill her ex is a very close friend to her family the ex's parents are like best friends with jenn's parents so its hard not to hear and see him when we go to jenns parents. Somtimes i can feel second best when im there and Bill is mentioned or wotever. Jenn and her ex had alot of things in the past it was her first love and she feel pregnant with him while he was in iraq in the army. she never had the baby. thank good.

so there is a big history between them both. Basiclly i need some advice on how to get not so parraniod when im not with jenn. i can somtimes think that she is seeing him if she goes to her moms or when she is not with me. The thing is he wants her back and it scares me coz of the past and that there was a history. i dont want to lose her. When she was at work one day he rang her and asked her if they wanna meet up on her lunch break. she was going to do it and not tell me, but she didnt
but its the fact that she WAS going to do it and NOT tell me. could you just give me some tips on how to chill out a bit on the " my girlfriend is going to cheat on me" syndrome. Thanx biro.


There are many reasons to trust her:
- she broke up with him and has been going out with you for 7 months
- she decided not to have his child
- she didn't meet him on her lunch break
- she told you about it

The problem is that he wants her back. Did she tell you that? How does she feel about that? I don't think you should tell her that she can't see him at all, but do tell her that if he wants her back, maybe she's leading him on or giving him mixed messages by seeing him.

The other thing you can do is treat her well and don't give her a hard time about it. If you start nagging her about it, she will get defensive and then the issue will start to take over your whole relationship. You gotta realize at the end of the day it's her decision. If she makes a bad one, maybe she's not the girl you love. You should remind her why you're so great.
Posted by gfs on Friday, 10 September 2004 (15:59:51) UTC (2861 reads)
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  Im to the point I will be single till I die!
Dating AdviceAnonymous writes: Hello I need some advise Im a 28 year old male and I cant drive due that I have a medical problem that wont allow me to drive. Since I live in the country which is kinda out of the way and theres not any stores,restaunts, or bars for miles and Im kinda stuck here. If all thats not bad enough When I go to the doctor or to the grocery store or anything like that and i see someone that I would like go out with Im to shy to ask her out and I am usually with my mother cuz I ride with her where we need to go due to the fact that I live with her cuz that I cant drive and since i cant drive I cant really hold a job the only income i get is from social sucurity disabilty check i get every month. The last girlfriend that I had that I actually loved was over 5 years ago, Ive tryed online dating and that ended up being a waste of time to me because I cant relocate to anywhere well I could but if i did Id be leaving my mother hanging and if something happened here at the house she would need me here to fix it if you understand what im saying. Just the same my main problem is that Im just to shy to ask someone out and 90% of the time Im walkin around in wal-mart right next to her and as far as friends goes i dont have any thats my age. How do i over come being shy? For example If I were in a crowd I wouldnt dare to ask a girl out but if i was sitting or standing next to a girl in a room and we were alone i would ask her out see what im driving at?
Ok well thanks

GFS: Thanks for writing; your problem is a common one.

The first thing to keep in mind when trying to overcome your shyness is that most people have insecurities, whether they appear to be shy or not. So you're in the same boat as most people.

The second thing to realize is that there's no reason to be shy in front of a crowd of strangers. Why do you care what people you don't even know think of you? I can understand not wanting to make your moves in front of your mother because that will just cramp your style so definitely make sure she's out of earshot!

The third thing is to not make a big thing of it. Don't "ask her out", ask her if she wants to get a coffee, something really casual and low-key. Or just chat about something casually without pushing for something.

There are lots of great things on the internet for overcoming your shyness. Internet Dating is one that you said you've tried. Well, internet dating has people looking for all kinds of relationships so where you live might not necessarily be a problem. It will give you a chance to meet people you ordinarily wouldn't meet and, at worst, you can make new friends.

Another thing I highly recommend is trying some of the online community games such as,The Sims Online, etc. These games let you truly be yourself (or who you want to be) and let you meet and interact with many people without the pressures of real-life. They are really good for practicing your chatting skills and are lots of fun as well!

Good luck!

Posted by gfs on Friday, 10 September 2004 (14:26:55) UTC (43462 reads)
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How do you find a girlfriend most often?

Internet dating
Friends of friends
I pick up whatever cute girl I see
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My sister's friends
My parents find them for me
The girls choose me
I can't find any girlfriends


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