Date: Thursday, 21 October 2004 (12:58:58) UTC
ok check it out ive been with my girl for about 8 years and i recenlty proposed to her and all she could say was i dont know and im so confused, i deeply love her but i have to bring the lust back into this relationship she wants time to think now which is fine what is your advise help!
Have you talked to her about getting married before now? Eight years is a long time and then for her to not know is pretty strange.
There are a few things you can do to bring back the lust. Do some new things... try doing some activities together that you've both never done. You'll share new experiences and it will help you get out of a rut. You can also spend more time in social settings with a bunch of other people. Talk to other girls and let her talk to other guys. I'm not saying to cheat or anything but seeing other people interested in your/her mate can wake up your/her passion.
You have to figure out what you really want. Then figure if she can give it to you. It could be that she's not completely happy in the relationship but it's too much trouble and heartbreak to break up. If that's the case you should either try to work things out by talking to her and trying to figure out what she needs and what's missing OR you should find someone else who can commit to you. You deserve it.