Boy From Illinois
Date: Wednesday, 20 October 2004 (18:05:20) UTC
So, here's my question. This girl has been a very good friend of mine for almost two years now, and we share a lot with eachother. Just yesterday, she told me that she's been debating with herself a long time about this, but she says that she loves me. Now, I've really got no problem with that, as I really do feel the same way. We look into eachothers eyes and see something, almost a spark. However, I really do not know what to do, how to proceed. There are a lot of people at school who get into these almost (Sorry for saying this...) "stupid" relationships with girls they don't know very well half of the time, and I don't want this to be like that. I want this to last a long time, can you please help me?
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The thing about relationships is that each one is unique. There is no one way to do it. There is no right answer and no wrong answer. So, you can have whatever kind of relationship you both want to have. The best way to figure out what will be is to take it slow and communicate with each other.
Since you've been friends for a long time, you both might feel a little pressure and shyness in changing the relationship from friendship to something more. If you talk about it then there will be less pressure and you'll both be "on the same page". But don't talk it to death. When you feel really close to her, looking into her eyes, then kiss her (gently). Hold her hands. See how she responds.
Don't worry about other people's relationships. Different people are looking for different things and are at different stages.