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just can along your site very good!!!

Write i have this girlfriend we have been going out for 7 months its great. we ARE in love with each other and i want to spend my life with her so does she. we have our own appartment and we are off to orlando next week for a holiday.

Jenn my girlfriend who is now 20 was going out with this guy 3 years before i came along a year later after they had split up. Bill her ex is a very close friend to her family the ex's parents are like best friends with jenn's parents so its hard not to hear and see him when we go to jenns parents. Somtimes i can feel second best when im there and Bill is mentioned or wotever. Jenn and her ex had alot of things in the past it was her first love and she feel pregnant with him while he was in iraq in the army. she never had the baby. thank good.

so there is a big history between them both. Basiclly i need some advice on how to get not so parraniod when im not with jenn. i can somtimes think that she is seeing him if she goes to her moms or when she is not with me. The thing is he wants her back and it scares me coz of the past and that there was a history. i dont want to lose her. When she was at work one day he rang her and asked her if they wanna meet up on her lunch break. she was going to do it and not tell me, but she didnt
but its the fact that she WAS going to do it and NOT tell me. could you just give me some tips on how to chill out a bit on the " my girlfriend is going to cheat on me" syndrome. Thanx biro.

GFS:

There are many reasons to trust her:
- she broke up with him and has been going out with you for 7 months
- she decided not to have his child
- she didn't meet him on her lunch break
- she told you about it

The problem is that he wants her back. Did she tell you that? How does she feel about that? I don't think you should tell her that she can't see him at all, but do tell her that if he wants her back, maybe she's leading him on or giving him mixed messages by seeing him.

The other thing you can do is treat her well and don't give her a hard time about it. If you start nagging her about it, she will get defensive and then the issue will start to take over your whole relationship. You gotta realize at the end of the day it's her decision. If she makes a bad one, maybe she's not the girl you love. You should remind her why you're so great.