She's with someone else and knows my feelings!
Date: Friday, 10 September 2004 (15:17:08) UTC
Topic: Playas Playbook
I wish I learned some things first. In my case I really like this girl for a year and it looked like she liked me, but I made the mistake of telling her how I felt about her. Long story short she says she doesn't feel the same way about me and worse she met someone else and he is her boyfriend. I feel like she was starting to fall for me but then it went nowhere and now this has happened. She says she just wants to be friends! However, she is still receptive to my flirting with her. I guess she loves the attention. What can I do to salvage this and get her wanting me and to be with me?
You'll never get her as a boyfriend but maybe as a short-term fling. According to a study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, people decide what kind of relationship they want within minutes of meeting. Now the good news is that women have been known to change their minds! However, once it goes from "maybe something" to "let's be friends" it can never return. The door is closed.
You can try keeping low for a while (no, I don't mean go down on her!) and see if she starts missing the attention. That's your best bet. Keep her wanting a little more.