The Girlfriend Stealer's Homepage - How to Get a Girlfriend

hi gs,
i'm actually a girl, found your site because my situation is that i have liked my roommate (a guy) for a few years, but never did anything about it because i was raising my child. i totally fell for my roommate because he is the sweetest thing, was there for me during the whole time i was pregnant when my baby's father left me at 3 months. i really regret not having done anything, but was never quite sure if he liked me but there always seemed to be subtle signs like him telling me that his friends can take me on tours in his country (he's not from this country), and that when i asked him to do things with me, he always agreed, but funny thing was he never asked me to do things with him, other than that first night he moved in he asked me to his room to play a boardgame with him. We lived in the same place for 7 months PLATONICALLY, then I moved to my new place. NOW, 2 years later, the situation is that he has a girlfriend since last january, and they just moved in together--but now they are a day's drive away from me. i've never met her. Last december, he told me he was tired of always doing things with her, and he didn't want to spend xmas w. her. I being the nice idiot, told him he can either try to work things out or move on. I guess he worked things out with her. For these past 2 years, i've only seen him 4 times as she is always with him and vice versa, and they had plans months in advance. I think he still likes me, as I told him I had a room for rent, and he said he wanted to rent, then changed his mind when I asked if he was serious.
I can't get him out of my mind, and I saw him for the last time a few days ago, I finally told him that I think a lot about him, asked him not to go but stay with me. He said he can't cheat on his girlfriend, and I told him that's what I like about him, and I knew he wouldn't. I wouldn't want him to, because for me, it would have to be done the right way. Now, gs, I'm asking you what is the right way to get them to break up? I'm being bad, but that's how much this guy means to me Smile

Help pls!

GFS:

This one had me pondering for a while as it's not really my area of expertise. Also, you don't say what country this guy is from and if he's from a completely different culture, that could make a big difference.

First, please, please, please make sure that you really love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him. It's really not fair to get him to leave his girlfriend for a whim. (Geez, I must be getting a nice-streak in my old age.)

If he's not so happy with his current girlfriend it should be fairly easy to get him. The trick is not to pressure him -- he can get nagging from his girlfriend. When you see him, flirt with him. Keep it fun and funny. Try a quick kiss. Then tell him you want him (be direct -- men need that or we don't get it). If he starts talking about his girlfriend, change the subject to something completely different. Keep the pressure off.